To Whom It May Concern,
Mrs. Esme M. (Chrissy) cared for Audrey (my step mother) (92) in November and December 2015. Chrissy has a unique gift in understanding human nature at the most critical moments in one’s life.
Despite Audrey’s incapacitation and total dependence, Chrissy made her feel independent in her last days. In the most compassionate, loving way, Chrissy innately understood Audrey’s love of her flowers, dishes, clothes, vases and other objects that created so many memories in her life. With unending patience, each dish was cherished and discussed before choosing the right one for the next meal. And then with a chefs expertise, Chrissy would deliver small bites of various foods to encourage Audrey’s appetite. If ever, more is less, it is when you could see this perfect tray with a flower surrounded by small delicate dishes with just two pieces of banana, a few bites of meat and another plate of veggies and a touch of dessert and/or fruit.
Chrissy was ever vigilant of Audrey’s needs both physical and emotional. During her last weeks, Audrey was extremely agitated. Chrissy assisted Audrey but also me in trying to bring calm to the various situations. She had a unique way of “flowing with the current crisis of the moment” and yet set some boundaries to encourage Audrey emotionally back to a safe space in her mind. Her gentleness, her sincere love and her skilled experience have no price. She is quite an extraordinary person.
Chrissy’s commitment was timeless. She never took a day off during this period. Audrey trusted and relied on her totally. There were many nights, Chrissy got up to assist the Hospice person and/or caregiver. On every occasion, her presence brought calm to the situation so Audrey would feel safe again.
And then, Chrissy was also my greatest supporter and friend. She had an innate understanding of how I was feeling during these chaotic last few months. She always listened to me in an un-judging way, supported me and shared her wisdom quietly. I will always be grateful to her. I have not met another more compassionate, loving, kind, gentle person in this world.
If by chance, Chrissy comes to assist a relative of yours in their time of need, feel honored. She is truly an exceptional person with many special gifts.